Alopecian Empress

Alopecia is teaching me a lot about myself.

It’s very hard to look into the mirror and see that your hair is different.  The bald spot is growing back slowly and also getting bigger at the same time.  Thankfully I can still hide it but it is getting harder to do that also.

Alopecia is teaching me that beauty doesn’t come from your hair.  It comes from inside.

Imagine if you woke up one day and you had a bald spot or clumps of hair started to come out.

How would that make you feel?

I know I felt shock at first.  I immediately started to look for answers on how to stop it from happening or a cure.  I quickly learned that there wasn’t one.  No one knows why alopecia happens.  There is also no one treatment that helps.  It is an autoimmune disease.  It has many causes.  The causes include stress, vitamin deficiency, hormones, other autoimmune disease, or diet.  Those are just some of the causes.

For some people, just changing their diet brings their hair back.  Some people just have to take vitamins.  Some people get steroid injections.  Even when the hair grows back, it can fall out again in the future.

Alopecia has taught me acceptance.

I accept what is happening in the current moment.  Yes my hair is growing back slowly and my spot has gotten bigger.

My beauty, identity, and confidence comes from inside.  My soul is where my beauty, identity, and confidence lie.

My beauty is not based solely on my looks.

Alopecia has also given me a new direction in life.

I’ll be speaking at a alopecia beauty event next month.  I wouldn’t be doing that if I didn’t have alopecia.  I wouldn’t be the Alopecian Empress without alopecia.  I have so many opportunities now.

I’m just surprising myself.  I never would have thought that losing my hair could lead to me living my best life.  The Alopecian Empress has arrived.

Alopecia has made me stronger.




  1. ohshebaldbald · November 6, 2019

    It’s crazy how hair loss can be a devastatingly wonderful experience.

    I hid my bald spots for over 17 years. Among other reasons, I was an Oncology nurse and felt as though losing my hair wasn’t enough of an issue to warrant complaint when I had my health. After leaving the field, I embraced it and found so much peace in letting go of the sparse hairs and shaving my head bald. Sometimes I wear wigs, but it’s completely by choice instead of sorrow.

    Letting go of what everyone else would think about me and deciding that I was amazing with or without hair has made all the difference in transitioning from ‘suffering’ to living with alopecia. I commend you on your courage and look forward to your inspiring journey.


    • girlyrenee · November 7, 2019

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog.

      I was just diagnosed last year. It’s been a crazy year but I’m learning to embrace my alopecia.

      I love that now you are thriving and living with alopecia.

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  2. ohshebaldbald · November 7, 2019

    It was a pleasure to read. I love seeing blog’s such as yours. The more we speak about alopecia, the less of a monster it becomes.


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