I recently saw this post in a Facebook group that made me think.
This woman didn’t like the fact that she was known for her hair. She wore a wig and got complimented on it almost every day. She said she didn’t like it because it wasn’t her hair.
That got me thinking because on the cruise ship that I’m on, I’m known for my hair. When people describe me, they say the girl with the big curly hair. There is only one other woman on the ship that wears her hair like me. Every time we see each other, we compliment each other on our hair because our hair looks similar.
I usually wear my hair straight but I don’t have the time or my straight hair products to do that.
In the beginning, that did irritate me that people would compliment my hair first. I think I have a beautiful smile.
I realize now, that my hair is more noticeable when I wear it naturally curly. It stands out more than my smile.
I also realize that I was letting my alopecia get in the way. I don’t know if I’m going to get another bald spot or not. I don’t know if my hair will thin. I would rather have people notice my smile just in case my hair won’t be this beautiful again. Right now my hair is doing good! No bald spots, thinning, or excessive shedding. I’m going to enjoy that while it lasts. I hope it lasts!
I also realize that I can’t control what people know me for. Some people know me for my big smile. Some people know me for my hair. Some people know me as the girl who loves to take pictures of rainbows.
I can’t control what people know me for any more than I can control the rainbow when I’m trying to take a picture of them. Sometimes they go away before I can take a picture. Sometimes they transform before my eyes into something even more incredible. This next picture, I was trying to take a picture of a rainbow in a cloud and then the moon appeared!
So while I do understand this womans frustration over what people compliment her on, I also understand that I can’t control what people say or what they notice about me.
Think about what you are known for. What compliment do people give you? Do you agree with them or do you not?
It’s ok to take the compliments. You don’t have to agree with them but you also can’t control what people notice about you.